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Painted smile

Ray Thomas of the Moody Blues passed away last week. He was 76 years old and a founding member of one of the bands who (along with the Beatles) arguably was the most significant in founding the art rock movement of the 1970's.

Justin Hayward was the lead singer but here is one of my favorite songs that Ray sang from his time with the Moodys..."Painted Smile".



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echelons

It’s all relative.

Some people can dress once a month and be happy with that and consider it progress while others cannot abide one more day without transitioning.

I dress every single day even if it is only for an hour. Sometimes it is because I have gotten home late and need to get some groceries and, because it doesn’t take me long anymore and can be ready in 15 minutes, I do it without hesitation. It really represents an important part of my identity which brings me much peace and comfort.

I came from a long way back and how I live my life now would be an unacceptable situation particularly for those of you who are married and whose trans identity is not exactly welcome. But there is no going back and what I have attained now is the best compromise I can muster and still live an honest life which reflects who I am. The only possible variation left would be to work as Joanna; something which is still under consideration.

The process has been so slow and organic that I cannot point…

judgement

Judgement isn’t something we are born with; we develop it. It involves looking at a situation and the possible outcomes based on the criteria at hand. I think it also involves a good deal of “do no harm” approach to navigate whatever waters we are in.

They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions and for good reason: using only intention as a substitute for good judgement can spell trouble; after all good intention is more subjective since it doesn’t weight possible outcomes. If I enter a business deal with only good intentions and don’t weight the possibility that my new business partner is a crook it is not enough to tell them so after they have cheated you.

Sound judgement is something you hone and develop over time and experience and hope you have enough of it by the time you reach a certain age. Not everyone develops it to the same level and navigate through life without learning its full value. If we acquire any it can be the result of a series of painful life experie…

the beauty of winter

It was a frigid day, the sun was out and we had just come off a huge snow storm but that blue sky made all the difference.

I took this picture from my front porch yesterday morning...





where did all the comments go?

I have been reading and actively contributing to Jack Molay’s Crossdreamers since 2011; even penning one or two guest posts over that time.

One of the notable trends since then has been the dramatic reduction in comments which seems to parallel the advancement of transgender people in society. Whereas before you would read testimonials from people trying to find their identity and understand themselves, the increased visibility and awareness of our situation in society seems to have quieted the angst. I remember comment streams that would extend up to 30 or 40 in response to one of his articles.

I am in no way saying that this is representative of a lowering of our guard in defending our rights but more a relaxing based on shared experience and knowing we are increasingly supported.

It is no small task to have gotten this far and Jack’s site has been pivotal in exploring the nuances of this complex topic which has been attempted to be simplified by those driven by their own agendas.

M…

your secret self

Joanna Ferrari has infectious energy and I think you will appreciate what she has to say...


between two ferns

When you try and watch this video it might prompt you to go to YouTube but just click on the link provided and it will take you there...