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the letter

The following are excerpts from a People article:

"The mother of a transgender teen from Florida who died by suicide this month is hoping to raise awareness by sharing her child’s story and encouraging parents to listen to their children.

With her high school graduation just around the corner in June, Eric Peter Verbeeck—who was born a male—was looking forward to beginning anew. She had already taken her first steps toward transitioning into a woman named Hope, first undergoing hormone treatments and by wearing female undergarments. One of the biggest steps for the teenager occurred almost a year ago when she came out to her mother, Patricia McKay Verbeeck, about her inner struggle of living in a body that didn’t reflect her identity as a female.

With the full support of her mother on the journey forward, Eric began hormone treatments to grow breasts and started incorporating more pink into her life, such as making it the color of her watch and phone case. Yet, Eric didn’t want to…
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the strange bedfellows

Discrimination against transgender people sometimes makes for strange bedfellows. Here for example, you will find radical feminists aligning with religious extremists to fight a common enemy which they describe as the dreaded “transgender agenda”; the one no one told me I was a part of when I was growing up.

Apparently, we are destroying the fabric of civilization by simply asking for tolerance and, by allowing 1% of the population some basic rights, is like admitting it is perfectly okay to be like us. This non-starter would amount to an admission destroying their basic platforms which rely heavily on us either being mental defectives or men deliberately trying to usurp the place of women. That neither position relies on logic or accurate information matters less than the dogma each party holds dear proving to what extent human nature relies on self-delusion.

Both these groups have a tendency to not talk to actual transgender people but prefer to make conclusions about our existence…

not quite trans enough

This is going to happen more and more in these open times. Here is a young gay, feminine male who mistook his gender variance for being transgender. However, he left one important facet out: the presence of gender dysphoria which he does not suffer from. This bit of news dawned on him from watching a Blair White video who is herself a rather strident and opinionated transgender woman who happens to be correct in this rather important observation.

This young man now realises he is happy being a feminine male and all ends well with no harm done....

the circus side show

Donald Trump brags about lying to world leaders and, looking very much like the fool he is, he does not realize the joke is on him.

Perhaps he has forgotten that no one is going to want to negotiate with a liar and, when Prime Minister Trudeau reminded him that the US actually had a surplus and not a trade deficit with Canada, Trump didn't believe it until his own sycophants were able to confirm it for him.

Now with Tillerson gone and McMaster likely next, he is said to be preparing himself to hire proper yes men and/or radical fringe politicians like John Bolton who share his penchant for histrionics and are considered to be too extremist even for the already fringe GOP.

If people who voted for this man still don't get that he was a bad choice I suppose they never will but clearly some are, because Connor Lamb's congressional victory in a safely red Pennsylvania district could signify there is payback coming this November for not having put a stop to his buffoonery soone…


My almost 82 year old mother has come a long way.

The other day we were on the phone and she told me how she had seen the Danish Girl and felt so bad for the main character Lili Elbe and was so glad her wife supported her. This kind of reaction would not have been possible from her some years ago but with me being transgender and hearing more about my life has really opened her mind to the subject.

As I ponder where to go from here with my life it is nice to hear those positive statements that only make it easier to remove the stigma I have felt so long over being transgender. She proves that people can grow and learn at any age.

I wouldn't require that my mother ever accept me as her daughter just that she accepts me as I am which is more than enough for me.

great expectations

You only realize how much your life has been about discipline when suddenly you are on your own with fewer pressing responsibilities. You have little basis for comparison because you get somewhere you have never been before. In your previous life you just accepted things as they were and dealt with your circumstances as best you could.

Whether it is accomodating parents, partners, children or society it suddenly dawns on you one day that you have come to a new juncture where you have a right to finally look after your own needs. The lessened outside expectations combined with the bonus of a complete disregard for the opinions of strangers, offers you a new perspective.

Life often brings us to places we do not expect after decisions are thrust upon us or we make those we never expected to and, I suspect I will learn to appreciate this stage of life all the more, once I am fully acclimated to it.

the maverick scientist

Stephen Hawking lived with ALS for over 50 years; diagnosed at age 21, he beat the odds by stumping doctors and going far beyond the life expectancy for the dreaded disease.

Author of the now famous work "A Brief History of Time' (I recall reading my father's copy), he was regarded as one of the great minds in the field of Physics adopting his own maverick stances on the age of the universe, the big bang theory which he found highly suspect and black holes. Life couldn't have been easy for Mr. Hawking and yet his zest for knowledge must have undoubtedly contributed to his longevity. Maybe he now has a share the secrets about the nature of our existence he so desperately sought in life. I for one hope so.

Stephen Hawking has been compared by many with the likes of Albert Einstein who once famously said "God is subtle but not malicious". How ironic then that Mr. Hawking would pass away on Mr. Einstein's birthday of March 14th.